Pride Cometh Before a Fall

After church we usually stick around and chat for a little bit. After our usual chatting, we loaded up in the van and headed home. We got a couple miles from church when Justus said, "We forgot JD!"  Since Justus likes to joke around, my first thought was he was kidding. I said, "JD if you're in here speak up now!" No answer.  Jerry hit the brakes and stopped the van right in the middle of the road. Thank goodness no one was behind us!

We turned around and headed back. Of course, because we were trying to get back as fast as possible, we had to pull over for not one, but two, fire trucks in the short drive back! I sent a text to our friend Claudia, who I knew was still there when we left, telling her we were on our way back, but her phone was on silent. Jerry's phone was as well or we would have heard it ringing because another church friend Wes was trying to call him to tell us JD was still there!

We pulled into the parking lot to find JD standing in front of the church with a small crowd of laughing adults behind him! I wish I would have thought to take a picture. I crack up just thinking about it!

JD jumped in the van and told us his side of the story...

He and a friend were collecting the little wine/juice cups from the Lord's Supper. When they finished he wondered where we all were. The friend joked, "I bet they left without you!" So they went out to look for us and, sure enough, JD was shocked to see the van was gone. They ran in and told a few adults who then tried to call Jerry.

We have been parents for almost 26 years and this is the first time we have ever left someone behind. I guess of all the places to leave someone, church was probably the best! It was a good reminder for everyone to just stay put if that happens. Eventually, we'll figure it out and come back for you!

Before we left home to go back for evening service we reminded JD to grab his Bible. His reply... "Don't want it to be left behind LIKE ME!" Then when we got back to church we were asked several times if we had everyone! It'll be awhile before we live that one down! Several people shared their own "kid left behind" stories. Seems no one forgets when it happens... I'm sure these 10 minutes will be remembered a long time and the story will be told in our family many years from now! For that reason, I thought I'd write a quick post to record the details so there is no embellishing of the facts 20 years from now! ;)

What a way to celebrate...Father's Day!

FAP Update - Second Opinion

After meeting with the surgeon in February, we decided it was time to get a second opinion. We never felt the need to get a second opinion on the diagnosis, but we wanted to make sure that it was the right time for surgery. So, we made an appointment with the GI doctor that the surgeon recommended to us. We finally saw him the end of March. (This post is way overdue! Sorry!)

Dr. M was very nice and, more importantly, actually has experience with FAP patients. He has both pre and post surgery FAP patients which makes him a good bit more experienced than Dr. B. We shared Wesley's story with him. Like most of the other medical professionals we've met along this FAP journey, he was quite interested to hear the story of Wesley's diagnosis.

Dr. M told us he would recommend holding off on surgery for the time being. Surgery would become necessary when the polyp count is around a thousand. We were a bit surprised to hear that since the surgeon said 20 polyps! He asked us to request a copy of the biopsy results for him to look at before he made a final decision, but from what we told him about the verbal results he said we could wait. Personally, I was happy to hear this. We know the time for surgery will come eventually, but I would like to see Wesley stay whole for as long as possible.

Dr. M also said he was glad to see Wesley was already taking Sulindac since research shows it can slow polyp growth. I was happy to hear that as well because insisted Dr. B put him on it even though he didn't think it would really help. He did suggest a different antacid to go along with it, so we got a prescription for that.

The plan now is to follow up with Dr. M in July. At that time he'll do an exam and see how things are going. If all is well, we will schedule another colonoscopy in December. Having Dr. M do the colonoscopy this time will get us another (second) opinion on the polyp count and how best to proceed. Good news... he does procedures right in his office so we won't have to go to the hospital. We were super pleased to find that out.

We were on the surgeon's schedule for May 2nd, but called and cancelled. Well, it's really more of a reschedule with an unknown date. We had been working really hard to stay on track with school work so we could have it all done before the surgery. Praise God, now we can use that time to swim or read some fun books! Keep praying and stay tuned.

Quick update: Jerry and I finally got our genetic test results. There were no surprises. Both of us tested negative. This doesn't change anything as far as Wesley's treatment goes. It just means the chances of any of the other kids having FAP are pretty much zero. Knowing this we have decided not to test any of them. Of course, we will keep watch for CHRPEs or osteomas or any other issues plus probably suggest earlier than recommended colonoscopy for them in the future.

FAP Update - Met with the Surgeon

We met with a surgeon last Wednesday per Dr. B's request. Dr. N walked in shook our hands then turned to me and said, "So, you're the doctor who came up with the diagnosis?" Yes, yes I am!

There were really no surprises. The surgeon said, generally speaking, the surgery should be done once the patient has 20+ polyps. Wesley is well past that point. He said it is a good time to do it. Wesley is healthy.

One of my questions for him was if he knew of anyone in the Phoenix area who specializes in FAP (or at least knows a bit more about it). We all like Dr. B, but he is the first to admit that he doesn't have a lot of experience with this disease. He has recommended getting a second opinion several times. I never felt the need to get a second opinion regarding the diagnosis. I always thought I'd save the second opinion for surgery timing. Looks like that time has come. We got a name and made an appointment, but we can't get in until late March. We would like to see that doctor before surgery so that pushes things out until at least April or May.

Although we had already read about it, it was good to hear Dr. N explain the surgery. It will take place in two parts each requiring an approximate 5 day hospital stay. During the first surgery, they will laparoscopically remove Wesley's large intestine (total colectomy). The surgeon will form a "j-pouch" with the far end of the small intestine. However, this pouch needs some time to heal before it can hold feces so they will temporarily run Wesley's small intestine to a hole or stoma on his abdomen where his waste can flow out into a bag. This is called an ileostomy.

After about 8 weeks, when things are sufficiently healed, they will perform another surgery connecting the small intestine to the j-pouch section and close the stoma. Feces will then be able to come through the small intestine and j-pouch. It will always be more liquid and more frequent than that of a normal person. The surgeon said there really aren't any particular dietary restrictions with a j-pouch, but patients learn what causes things to move through more quickly and avoid them if they won't be near a bathroom.

Wesley will continue to need ongoing "surveillance" of his remaining digestive tract. Endoscopy to keep an eye on his stomach and duodenum as well as the remaining part of his rectal area.

Wesley continues to feel great. I don't think he was really surprised by what the surgeon said, it was all things we had talked about ahead of time. He doesn't have too many concerns at this time, he's most concerned about being in the hospital for so long. Can't say I blame him! As always, continued prayers are appreciated.

This year National Dress in Blue Day for colon cancer awareness is Friday, March 3rd. Wear blue and post a photo to Facebook and tag me or Wesley. He sure enjoyed all the photos our friends and family posted last year!

FAP Update - January 2017

Wesley had his second colonoscopy Friday, January 13th. The prep on Thursday went well. Thankfully, Wesley doesn't really mind the clear liquid diet. He even felt confident enough to go to his Latin class.

Mid-day Thursday, I got a call from the doctor's assistant letting us know Wesley was being bumped back on the schedule from 9am to noon due to the doctor needing to squeeze in two younger patients. The later time slot made the drive easier as far as traffic goes, but it made for a longer time of complete fasting which is, understandably, Wesley's least favorite part.

We got to the hospital for registration right on time at 10:30am. When they called to do some of the pre-admission paperwork I had asked about parking because I couldn't remember what we did last time. The gal I spoke with made it sound simple... but there was basically NO parking and we ended up having to valet park. Which, once we got there, I remembered is exactly what we did last time! Note to self: Skip the driving around and just valet park.

Since we valet parked we walked through a few hospital hallways to get to registration. The lady at the registration desk felt really bad about the high out-of-pocket cost that came up on her screen. Guess that's the downside of high deductible plans. She didn't even know that worst of it... our HSA account had several thousand dollars in fraudulent charges last summer and we didn't notice until it was too late to make a claim and recover it. So our health savings account was pretty much empty!

Once all that was settled, we were off to the Endoscopy department. They got Wesley checked in and all set up much quicker than last time. In addition to the usual check-in business, they put in an IV. Wesley had a bad experience with getting an IV during a CT scan and he was not happy they didn't let him wait until he was out before putting it in this time. I was watching his heart rate on the monitor as she was putting the IV in. It went up a good 40 beats per minute! He was tough and, thankfully, it only took her one try.

All that was a bit of "hurry up and wait" though. We spent a longer time waiting in the prep area this time. We got to overhear lots of interesting conversations while we waited (the lady next to us wasn't prepped correctly). Wesley was getting a bit irritable and he was too distracted to pass the time reading. The nurse offered a portable DVD player, but the movie choices weren't anything he was interested in.

It turned out they weren't able to get a hold of one of the young patients who was supposed to be ahead of Wesley. I think they were just going to send him back when she showed up. They asked Wesley if it was okay if she still went first and he said that was okay. I think he felt good about his decision when the little four year old girl wheeled by. With a tear in his eye he said, "She's even younger than Annabeth." God blessed him with a big heart for little kids!

He didn't have to wait too long before it was his turn to be wheeled back. I gave him a kiss and headed to the waiting room. The procedure ran well over the "hour" the nurse said it would take, but this time I was expecting it. Dr. B came out to the waiting room to give me the results before Wesley was even settled in recovery.

The results were nothing unexpected or too surprising. Wesley still has many, many polyps throughout his large intestine. They seem to be really concentrated in the rectum. The doctor said polyps pretty much "carpeted" his intestinal lining in that area. There were fewer polyps than last year in the distal parts of the large intestine which was good to hear. Although the ones he did see were larger than before, guess that is to be expected since they have been growing longer.

I was not happy to hear the doctor found some polyps in his stomach and duodenum (the beginning portion of the small intestine) during the EGD this time. The EGD last time was all clear. The doctor said those polyps have a smaller chance of turning cancerous which is good since they can't take out the whole digestive tract!

Polyps in the stomach

Many of the polyps were "burned" or removed and sent for biopsy. Please continue to pray those results are good.

Polyps after coagulation

So right now the plan for Wesley is...

1) to continue on his medication - the doctor said the meds may have contributed to seeing fewer polyps in the distal portions of the colon.
2) meet with a surgeon to get a plan in place for the future (and because Dr. B thinks a colorectal surgeon may have more experience with FAP than he does).

The rest of recovery was uneventful. Wesley was sitting up and sipping some apple juice within a few minutes.  Shortly after that the nurse had the valet guy bring the car right to the door for us and we were on our way. We made a quick pit stop at McDonald's for a chocolate shake and drove on home.

We didn't arrange any secret mail this time, but our neighbor brought over a super cute candy bouquet and some sweet friends brought some goodies and a gift card as well. Thank you to everyone who prayed for Wesley and for all of us. Your prayers did not go unanswered. We really couldn't have asked for things to go better regarding the prep and procedure. We continue to praise God that we even know that Wesley has what could have been a silent killer!

UPDATE: Biopsy results came back with "mild dysplasia" which is similar to last years results. We have an appointment with a surgeon scheduled for the first week of February.

Covenant Children

As Jerry mentioned in the previous post, we are now members of the Orthodox Presbyterian Church (OPC). Our decision to join was not taken lightly or made on a whim. Many months of prayer, study, and discussion went into our decision. Up until this change, we have never really left a church where we were members/long-time regular attenders for any reason other than a cross country move. It was an emotionally hard process and not one I'd like to repeat! We were saddened by the fact we left friends we love dearly behind at our old church, but we just could not, in good conscience, worship there any longer.

There were many factors that led to our decision, but the one most discussed by Jerry and I was baptism. Who should be baptized? When? And by whom? If you're an evangelical Christian you might just say... believers... when the profess... by whoever. And lots of churches with a Baptist outlook (even if they don't call themselves "Baptist") would agree with you! But if you're a Presbyterian you would say... believers AND their children... when they profess, are born to believers, or join the church... only by an ordained pastor.

There are lots of reasons we came to agree with the Presbyterian point of view - the most important one is the Bible. The Bible is a long book and a lot of people can read the same verses and end up with different doctrine. Why is that? People define words differently. My definitions of "salvation" and "atonement" are much different than that of, say, my Mormon neighbors. This is why we have come to see the importance of creeds and confessions. Confessions, especially, sum up what the Bible says and help you find people who define words the way you do and believe same things. It is a joy to worship with people when you are all on the same doctrinal page! The confession we used to help us understand baptism and all the questions surrounding it was the Westminster Confession of Faith (WCF) and the Larger/Shorter Catechisms that go with it.

I wish I could say we just read it once and were convinced, but that was not the case. Like I said, it was a process. Discussion. Prayer. Study. While the WCF isn't that long, it backs up every statement it makes with verses from the Bible. Reading and studying those verses took time. Once convinced, we wanted to have the kids baptized; however, if we were going to do it, we wanted to do it right. 

The same confession that convinced us baptizing the kids was the right thing to do also convinced us that the baptisms couldn't be performed at the church we were currently attending. If you don't hold to the WCF, I understand you might feel differently. But I also hope you understand that if someone says they hold to the WCF (or any other confession/standard) then it is important to actually follow it, even if it is inconvenient or hard to do so. Anything less is hypocrisy.

We were convinced the WCF was the best summary of the Bible and we wanted to find a church that followed it. There are a few churches who use the WCF as their standard. We visited a couple, but in the end the OPC was just a better fit for our family. They take the Bible and doctrine very seriously and we LOVE that about them!

Sunday, November 4th we became members of the OPC and our first act, after our membership vows, was baptizing the children. Wesley, having made a profession of faith, was baptized and received as a communicant member. The rest of the children were baptized as our covenant children. Lord willing, at some point in the future, they will make their own professions of faith and become communicant members as well.

Here are a few photos from the day. Special thanks to one of the elder's wives for taking the photos for us!

Wesley

Eli

Justus

Hayden

JD

Annabeth

We were blessed to have my mom in town that weekend. Our dear friends, Pearl and Dan, were also able to come.

with Grandma Linda

with Pearl and Dan

with Pastor Joel

Wesley is studying Latin this year so I will end with this...

Soli Deo Gloria! To God alone be the glory!

Pearl took a video on her phone. It was taken with a cell phone so it's kind of hard to hear, but here is the video it you would like to see it:

Church

A note from Jerry:

A quick note on a change in our lives. After a lot of discussion, reading, praying we decided to change churches. We loved the folks at our last church, but we became convinced that some of the leadership practices simply were not biblical. Nothing sordid, just not in accordance with God's Word.

Our research lead us to the historic creeds and confessions of the Protestant Reformation. In particular, the Westminster Confession of Faith. We believe the Confession, along with the Catechisms, give the best summary of the doctrine found in scripture including who God is, who we are and how we are to live in light of this.

Because of this, we have decided to join the Orthodox Presbyterian Church (OPC).

It initially seemed a little strange to be joining an old denomination in the age of mega churches and hipster pastors, but we're convinced it's the right thing to do.

As Presbyterians, we believe that our children are part of the covenant community and as such they are to receive a sign of inclusion in the visible church. This is what baptism is for. Since we didn't baptize any of the kids as infants, we did that when we became members. Wesley made a profession of faith to our pastor and the elders and he was baptized and become a communicant member of the church. The other children were baptized as our covenant children. (Shelly will be sharing a baptism post with photos soon!)

If you have any questions, we would be happy to talk to you about them.

Jerry

Here are some links in case you are interested:
Our Church
The OPC
The Westminster Confession of Faith

FAP Update - October 2016

After a LONG wait, we finally had an appointment for Wesley with the genetic counselor and doctor team on Thursday, October 6th. I, personally, found it very interesting. (Wesley didn't!) I think they found US interesting as well. They usually help diagnose conditions like FAP in families so it was a different for us to go in knowing the genetic results already. They pretty much confirmed what we expected... they don't THINK Wesley inherited the FAP from me or Jerry, but the only way to know for sure is to test. So that is where we will start. If Jerry and I both test negative we will not test the rest of the kids as the chances of them having it are just about zero. If one of us tests positive, we will have to move quickly to get treatment. We'll start with getting insurance pre-approval for the testing and go from there.

The most interesting part to me was getting their help with interpreting the genetic testing results. There was a small piece of info in the results that I didn't realize was there. They know the exact spot on the gene where Wesley's genetic code went wrong. The gene runs from 0 to 1500 something. Wesley's error is at the 554 spot. They have actually done some studies on symptoms and these numbers. With his number, Wesley is in the middle range for time of onset of symptoms. Not surprisingly, he is in the number range where it is more common for patients have CHRPEs. It's fascinating to me that they figured this all out and have studied it. Apparently, people whose error is at 1309 have very severe and early symptoms so we were thankful to know that Wesley didn't have an error at that position.

So, in the next few months Jerry and I will have genetic testing done. Now that they know the exact spot of the "error" they can just go right to that spot on our genetic code and look. Wesley's next colonoscopy is scheduled for January 13th. We will know more about how to proceed once we know those results. Please continue to keep us in your prayers!

FAP Update - July 2016

We had a follow up appointment with Wesley's GI doctor today. Last week, he ordered a thyroid ultrasound because FAP can cause cancer in other parts of the body, including the thyroid. The ultrasound was completely normal. It is something we will continue to check up on periodically.

The doctor didn't really have any new information for us. Thankfully, he agreed to schedule Wesley's next colonoscopy in January so we don't have to worry about it at Christmas time. He asked if we had gotten a second opinion, which we have not. We don't doubt the diagnosis. I think the second opinion will come in regards to the timing of his colectomy. He also asked if we had started the process of genetic testing for the rest of the family, which we have not. Although Jerry has called a few places. Genetic counselors are, surprisingly, hard to find even in a big metro area like Phoenix.

We will have to wait and see what the next colonoscopy shows before we make any surgery decisions. The average age of colectomy for FAP patients is late teens or early twenties. It seems those who know about it early tend to have the surgery earlier. I would like Wesley to keep his colon as long as possible, but the doctor reminded us they "are in the business of saving people, not colons."

I did ask him about a medication I had heard about called Sulindac.  They usually give this to patients after they have their colon removed to help prevent polyps forming in the remaining parts of the digestive tract. However, there have been a few studies that showed fewer polyps in people who took it who haven't yet had surgery and I wondered if it was worth a try. It is not a cure. Just a possible way to slow down polyp growth. The doctor had heard of it and didn't think it would really help, but since the medication has basically no side effects (it's in the same family as ibuprofen - NSAIDs) he was willing to let him try it. So we got a prescription for that.

Wesley is feeling great. No issues at all, digestive or otherwise. According to today's measurement, he is 5 feet 7 inches tall! He will be starting his homeschool high school journey in a few weeks. Please continue to pray that he stays healthy and that it will be abundantly clear when the time is right for us to move forward with the colectomy.

The End for Now (FAP - Part 5)

Wait! Have you read the other posts? They are here... part one, part two, part three, and part four.

We got a call on December 23rd that that the biopsy results were normal. No dysplasia or cell changes at this time. That was good news! It doesn't mean he won't need surgery, it just means he doesn't need surgery immediately. The doctor wants to see Wesley again in six months to see how things are going and to check his thyroid and liver. FAP, especially Wesley's type, can have other non-colon issues like cancers of the thyroid and liver. The chance is small, but a greater risk for him than someone without FAP.

I asked the doctor if it would be "straight forward" from here on out now that we know for sure Wesley has FAP. He said no, nothing is straight forward about this. It is a rare and unpredictable disorder. He only saw it twice when he was in school and Wesley is his first patient to have it since he has been a doctor. There are doctors who specialize in FAP and other hereditary colon cancer disorders and he wouldn't be offended at all if we wanted to get a second opinion from one of them.

So, where do we go from here? The next step is meeting with a genetic counselor. FAP is usually inherited, although about 30% of cases are spontaneous gene mutations. We are pretty sure that neither Jerry or I have it because we would already have colon cancer if we did, but it is pretty much standard to have the whole family (parents and siblings) tested when there is a known affected family member.

Beyond that, Wesley will have another colonoscopy in a year. We will see how many polyps he has at that time. When there are more polyps than the doctor can remove during a colonoscopy then it will be time to think about a colectomy (colon removal). Our goal is to keep him whole as long as possible without putting him at risk for cancer. Every FAP patient is different and there really is no exact timeline.

Please let me know if you have any questions. I know this was a lot to read and take in especially for those of you who had no idea this was even going on. Thank you for "listening". Now that I'm all caught up, I will post any updates as they happen. Prayers, especially for Wesley, are always appreciated! The prayers we have received up to this point have made a huge difference! No matter what we know God is in control of it all and He knows what He's doing!

If you want to read more about FAP, here are some links for you:
Familial Adenomatous Polyposis (MD Anderson)
A Patient's Guide to FAP (HCC Takes Guts)
Gardner syndrome (cancer.net)
Familial Adenomatous Polyposis (cancer.net)

If you want to read more about hereditary colon cancer disorders (including Gardner syndrome and FAP) visit HCC Takes Guts. The gentlemen that runs this website calls people like Wesley cancer "pre-vivors" because they fight cancer in a special way - before it happens!

One last thing... I know it's a little ways off, but March is National Colorectal Cancer awareness month. It is also happens to be Wesley's birthday month! March 4 is Dress in Blue Day to help spread awareness about colon cancer. We'll all be wearing blue! Feel free to join us!

Future updates can be found by clicking... HERE!

The Procedures (FAP - Part 4)

Please read part one, part two, and part three before continuing on...

They always say the prep is worse than the procedure when it comes to colonoscopies, so that is what I kept telling Wesley. He wasn't that worried about it. A diet of clear liquids sounded kinda fun to him. The thought a camera visiting his insides didn't even him bother him that much. He was more worried about getting another IV than anything else!

Bowel prep for kids is, thankfully, milder than the adult prep. I bought two over-the-counter laxatives and a shopping cart full of clear liquids to have on hand. We made several batches of jello and Kool Aid ice cubes to turn into popsicles and slushies and got started.

It went well. It went really well. There were, of course, trips to the bathroom, but nothing too bad. Wesley is my lightest eater so he didn't even really feel deprived skipping meals. He really enjoyed the broth and jello and drinks of all kinds. Everyone else was jealous of his special treats! Even completely fasting from midnight until the procedure wasn't that bad for him. He was hungry, but didn't really complain too much about it.

We were supposed to be at the hospital at 9:30am for the 11am procedures. Traffic and parking went better than expected and we were checking into admitting at 9am. We were called back to the prep area about 10:30am. Wesley was weighed and measured and got to pick out a stuffed animal to keep with him. He chose an odd looking little brown Beanie Baby bird (the tag said his name was Beak). Then he changed into a hospital gown and had his vitals taken. We met with both the anesthesiologist and Dr. B before the procedure.

The anesthesiologist was kind of a character. He asked Wesley if this was his first time with anesthesia and when he said yes, he replied "Me too!" He let Wesley choose if he wanted the medicine to put him to sleep through a mask or an IV. Of course, Wesley chose the mask. He would still get an IV, but this way he wouldn't be awake for it!

I asked the nurse about how long the procedures would take. She said an hour, but not to worry if it went longer than that. Thankfully, they were running on time. I was able to stay with Wesley up until they wheeled him into the procedure room just before 11am. I gave him a kiss and a hug and went to wait in the waiting area.

I checked Facebook. I sent a few texts to Jerry and Roz. I read a couple magazines. I tried to read a book I brought. An hour passed. Then an hour and a half. Then two. Just when I was starting to pace and get really anxious they called me back to recovery. Wesley was still groggy. He tried to sit up a couple times, but we told him to just lay down and rest. He came around pretty fast and was sitting up and chatting with me before too long.

Dr. B came to talk with us. The good news: the endoscopy was completely normal. No issues at all. The bad news: the colonoscopy was not normal. There were already polyps. Lots of them. I think even he was surprised how many there were. He removed over 40 and he was sure there were some he missed. He said it was the ones he missed that worried him most.

There is no way for them to ever get all the polyps. It's not that he gave up taking them out, he got as many as he could see, but there were probably some hidden in intestinal folds that he didn't see. The polyps are very small (2mm) and the same color as the rest of his intestine so they are camouflaged and hard to see. They were not concentrated in any one area, but spread throughout the whole colon. He saw one right at the beginning and more around each corner all the way to where the large intestine meets up with the small.

This is why they will eventually have to take out his colon. They know they could never get them all and it only takes one they miss that could be the polyp that becomes cancerous. The polyps he did remove were biopsied and sent to the lab. If any of the biopsies come back already showing dysplasia (cancerous cell changes) then we will have to start thinking about surgery sooner rather than later. If they come back okay then we will wait and do a repeat colonoscopy in one year.

Despite some of the less than positive news, we know prayers were answered! Wesley did great throughout the whole thing - both prep and procedures couldn't have gone smoother. He had no trouble at all with the anesthesia. There was no pain or bleeding from the polyp removal. His only complaint was hunger and you couldn't blame him for that!

Once he was good and awake the nurse gave him a much needed apple juice to sip on. Not too long after that he was up getting dressed and we were on our way home! Well, we didn't go right home... we made a quick pit stop to grab me a late lunch and Wesley a milkshake. We were just following orders - a milkshake was actually suggested on his discharge paperwork as post-procedure food!

We had a little surprise waiting for him when he got home. We had asked family and friends to send a card. I had intercepted the mail all week so he wouldn't see them before he got home from the hospital. A few kind friends even secretly brought small gifts. Wesley was so surprised and thankful! He asked several times how we managed to keep it a secret! He spent some time on the couch opening his big stack of envelopes and reading everyone's notes.

He wanted to display them in his room, so we hung them all up on the wall where he could see them.

Special thanks to all of you who sent something! It really made him feel special and loved.

On to the last post...

The Results (FAP - Part 3)

Read part one here and part two here, if you haven't already.

Ten days before the scheduled endoscopy and colonoscopy, I got a call from Dr. B. The final results of the genetic testing showed that Wesley does have FAP. The endoscopy/colonoscopy would remain on his schedule for the 18th, but he wanted to make Wesley the last case of the day so he could take his time and possibly remove any polyps that had already formed.

Jerry travels for work once or twice a year. He was on a plane when I got this call. I texted him and asked him to call home when he landed. I told him about the results as he walked to his next plane between flights. Then I told Wesley. He was upset, but took the news pretty well. We had already been talking about it and answering his questions for several weeks. I told him (and everyone else I talked to) over and over what a blessing in disguise it was that he had that lump on his jaw to alert us to what was going on! Not everyone with FAP has osteomas and/or CHRPEs and without those we would have never known!

There was one benefit to all the waiting. The whole thing had been such a slow process, spread out over months, that there was plenty of time to get used to one thing before moving on to the next. Since we were the ones to discover it in the first place there was never really a shock moment with a doctor where the doctor had to sit us down and break the news to us. 

The hardest part for me was back when we were first waiting to see the ENT doc and I had an idea what was going on but didn't know for sure. I couldn't sleep or think about anything else, but when we got no answers, I moved from worried to angry and determined to get answers. Then with all the delays, we got to the point where there was nothing to do but wait and pray. So that's what we did. We shared what was going on with a few close friends and family members and asked them to pray too.

We are just really thankful that God left all these clues for us and we followed them. I truly believe God has a plan here, He has all along. The plan for us to find out about Wesley having FAP was set in motion as far back as 2008/2009 when the eye doctor found that CHRPE in Wesley's eye and took the time to explain it to me. If we didn't have one piece of the puzzle, or even if a different parent had taken Wesley to a past appointment, we wouldn't have figured this out. None of us wanted this, but we're grateful we found out now and not when it was full blown colon cancer in a few years. 

Are we upset? Sad? Worried? Even a little mad? Yes! But here is the deal... Wesley has had this all along. From the moment he was conceived and his whole genetic code was written he has had this. We just know about it now. And it's much, much better to know about it!

The plan was to have Jerry take the day off and stay home with the rest of the kids when I took Wesley to hospital for his endoscopy and colonoscopy. Before we got the genetic test results, I have to admit I was a little worried about the fact that I would be alone when the doctor shared the news that Wesley did, in fact, have FAP. There was no need to worry about that now! Because of this phone call, I knew before we even went in. He definitely had it. The new unanswered question was: had the polyps already started to form?

We would have to wait until the 18th to find out.

Go on to part 4...

Hurry Up and Wait (FAP - Part 2)

If you haven't already, read part one here.

Up until this point, Jerry and I kept Wesley in the dark about our FAP concerns. We didn't want him to worry unnecessarily. Even at this point we didn't tell him everything, we told him we thought maybe something else was going on and we wanted to see another doctor.  

Thankfully, we only had to wait a week until the GI specialist appointment. This time Jerry and I took Wesley together. Filling out the paperwork we didn't check off any of the GI problems listed on the history form. Wesley had no issues - no pain, no bleeding, nothing. It was strange taking your seemingly perfectly healthy child into a GI specialist to say we're here because of these two odd (non GI) symptoms and mom's intuition. 

We were called back to the exam room where we met Dr. B. He was a nice (young) guy. He didn't act like we were totally insane when we told him our concerns, but I also didn't get the feeling he was convinced Wesley had this condition. Fortunately, this disorder does have a simple genetic blood test available. He said he would order the genetic testing to help us find out for sure.

Unfortunately, genetic testing sometimes doesn't have hard and fast results. There are variations of FAP and not all of them show up in the genetic testing, so a negative result didn't necessarily mean he doesn't have the disorder. Wesley could have a version they haven't mapped the gene for yet or we could have a false negative. We could go through the testing and still not get a firm answer. It could be that these two odd things are just weird, unrelated quirks. That was our prayer!

The doctor said he would "clinically follow" Wesley even if the results came back negative. This meant even if the results came back negative Wesley would probably be scheduled for a colonoscopy at some point. Personally, even with negative results, I wouldn't feel like Wesley was "in the clear" until he is 30 years old and had no polyps. 

We didn't know it at the time, but Dr. B's main nurse was out of the office that day. The nurse or assistant who helped us didn't know there were some special instructions for ordering genetic testing. We didn't follow the correct procedure and it would end up delaying the whole process. Not knowing this, Jerry took Wesley to the lab to get his blood drawn. We knew it may take "up to a month" to get the results so we waited patiently. When a month had passed and we hadn't heard anything we called. This is when we found out the tests weren't ordered correctly. One test came back showing "no deletions or duplications" (which was good!), but the other tests were lost. For those we had to start all over. 

Since we were starting all over the nurse suggested we get pre-approval from our insurance since genetic testing is expensive. That delayed things even more - Jerry had to call several times to get the right info either to or from the doctor to the insurance. Eventually, we did get approved and took Wesley to the lab again. Then we had to wait "up to a month" again for the results. 

A few weeks in, the preliminary results were showing some abnormal results. The nurse said Wesley was "at increased risk" for FAP. Based on that, the doctor suggested we schedule an endoscopy and colonoscopy. The only way to know for sure what was going on in there was to take a look around. Once again, this wouldn't necessarily give us a final answer. If they went in and everything looked good it was no guarantee that it would be that way in a year or two or ten. Either way we would just have to be patient and take it one step at a time because it could be years before we have a firm answer either way.

The colonoscopy was scheduled for December 11th. I couldn't send Wesley into a colonoscopy without explaining why so I sat down with him and explained everything as best I could in a kid-friendly way. He was pretty upset and even hyperventilated a little bit. At that time he was more worried about getting another IV than anything else (thanks CT scan guy!). The more he thought about it though, the more questions he had. I answered them as best I could. Unfortunately, no one could answer the question we all wanted to know the answer to... does he actually have FAP?

Then they called and bumped the colonoscopy back a week to December 18th. Great. More waiting!

Go on to part 3...

Begin at the Beginning (FAP - Part 1)

"Begin at the beginning," the King said, very gravely, 

"and go on till you come to the end: then stop."

- Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland 

I guess the best place to begin this post is the beginning. Fair warning though: this will be a multi-post story, so sorry in advance if it runs long or I leave you with a cliff hanger at some point.

The very beginning of this story is a regular eye exam for Wesley back in 2008 or 2009. It was his first. Everything was fine, no prescription needed, but when looking in his eye the doctor mentioned he had a birthmark called a CHRPE (pronounced "chirpy") on his retina. CHRPE stands for congenital hypertrophy of the retinal pigment epithelium. The doctor said they weren't too common and it was good to know he has had this since he was a child because when he sees a CHRPE in an adult he sends them right to a GI doctor because they almost always have colon cancer. In Wesley's case though, he was just born with it and it wasn't a concern.

Fast forward several years... near the beginning of this year, Wesley noticed a small bump on his jaw back near his ear. I wasn't too concerned. It didn't bother him at all. It was hard and immovable so I was pretty sure it wasn't an infection or something going on with the soft tissue. We decided to just keep an eye on it for a bit to see if it changed or went away on it's own.

When it came time for his well check in June we asked the doctor about it. He wasn't sure what it was either and decided to refer us to an ENT doctor. Jerry took Wesley across town (the ENT would only see first time patients at his home office) for the appointment. The ENT didn't give us an exact name for the bump, he said it was probably just a "benign bone growth" and he wanted to do a CT scan to be sure. I googled several variations of "benign jaw bone lump/growth/tumor" and came up empty handed.

The CT scan was scheduled for July 29th, and since the scan was closer to home, I took Wesley this time. When we checked in at the hospital, they gave us some paperwork. I looked at it and was interested to see this benign bone growth did have a name: osteoma. I snapped a photo of the paper so I could remember the name and made a mental note to look that up when I got home.

The photo I snapped while waiting to go into the CT scan

[Side story: The CT scan was ordered with intravenous contrast so Wesley had to get an IV. It was not a very good experience. The tech wasn't the greatest and struggled a bit to get the IV in before finally calling a nurse to do it. By then Wesley, who was already nervous, was pretty upset. The nurse got the IV right away and the scan was over in a few minutes, but the whole experience left Wesley with a new hatred of IVs!]

Later that evening, I sat down and googled osteoma. Of course, the top hit was just a generic page on Wikipedia. There wasn't much info and the little that was there pretty much said what the ENT had said - they are a "benign neoplasm" usually with an unknown cause. No big deal. Then it said "Osteomata are also found in Gardner's syndrome." So I followed the hyper link to "Gardner syndrome" and went down the rabbit hole.

I had never heard of Gardner syndrome before so I started reading. Nothing really caught my eye, but I kept reading anyway because I'm a sucker for interesting medical stuff. When I got to the part about diagnosis I couldn't believe my eyes. It said:

Gardner syndrome can be identified based on oral findings, including multiple impacted and supernumerary teeth, multiple jaw osteomas which give a "cotton-wool" appearance to the jaws, as well as multiple odontomas, congenital hypertrophy of the retinal pigment epithelium (CHRPE), in addition to multiple adenomatous polyps of the colon.

People with Gardner syndrome can have both osteomas of the jaw and CHRPEs? What are the chances Wesley also had both these two weird things? I told Jerry about what I read and he said we should be sure to ask the ENT about it at our follow up appointment.

I started researching more about Gardner syndrome. The more I learned the more worried I got. Gardner syndrome is a subtype of familial adenomatous polyposis (FAP). The main issue with FAP is that it causes lots (like hundreds and eventually thousands) of polyps to form in the colon at a very young age. That many polyps, if left unattended, have a 100% chance of turning into colorectal cancer. There is no cure. The main treatment is to have the large intestine removed so the polyps never have a chance to become cancerous.

There were several nights I stayed up reading all I could find about it online and then I couldn't sleep. The follow-up with the ENT couldn't come soon enough. My fear was that the ENT (having never heard of this rare disorder) would tell us not to worry and send us on our way. And that is exactly what happened. The ENT doctor said the CT scan showed it was just a benign bone growth and not to worry. Even when we asked him outright if it could be a sign of something more serious or related to colon cancer, he said it wasn't.

Now what? I wasn't sure what to do. I didn't want to be accused of fabricating an illness and seeking unneeded medical attention. Parents get their kids taken away for things like that! (Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome, anyone?) But I also could NOT just ignore these two symptoms knowing that if it was this rare disorder Wesley could be developing colon cancer right this very minute. So, I followed my gut and emailed his primary doctor. Knowing how doctors feel about patients diagnosing themselves with Google, I carefully worded my my email. I just laid out the facts and let him connect the dots. He emailed me back the next day saying he was "impressed with my research" and gave us a referral to a pediatric GI specialist.

That made me feel much better! I was so thankful that he didn't just brush me off as some crazy Googling mom! We made the appointment with the GI specialist and waited.

Go on to part 2...

Christmas Ornament 2015

Every year I give the kids a Christmas ornament. For the past few years, I have made it a goal to make them and not buy them. I am really proud of myself for getting them made early this year. I even had them finished before Thanksgiving!

I can thank Pinterest and Roz for the idea for this year's ornament. Roz made a goal to read 52 books in 2015 so I decided to make book ornaments for everyone. I found instructions on Pinterest to make miniature books. They weren't necessarily supposed to be ornaments, but that was an easy fix with the addition of a piece of string.

The first step was to ask everyone what their favorite books were this year. I texted Roz to ask her and didn't mention why I wanted to know. I wanted to make one for Trevor too, so I had to text him on the sly as well. I ended up making him a book on his "to read" pile instead of his favorite for the year.

I went to Amazon and printed off tiny images of each book's front cover. If it was available I printed the back cover too. For the novels I was able to find excerpts and pasted them into a document in tiny font to print. So the tiny words in the book are really from each book. 

They all start with the real first sentence, but the following pages ended up in no particular order due to double sided printing and page folding. The comic and more graphic novels are a little bit different. They have tiny, printed screen shots of the preview pages courtesy of Amazon.

It's hard to tell from these photos, but the books are tiny. Most of them are just over an inch in height. The biggest is still under two inches tall.

My favorite ended up being Hayden's little Calvin and Hobbes book. It really looks just like a tiny version of the real thing! He reads C&H every day at lunch. Even though it is too small to read the actual words, he could tell me what it says because he has them memorized!

Here are all eight completed ornaments...

Top row: 

Lego Ninjago (JD), Diary of a Wimpy Kid (Eli), Cat in the Hat (Annabeth)

Bottom row: 

Calvin and Hobbes (Hayden), Around the World in 80 Days (Justus), 

Solar Flare (Wesley), The Nightingale (Roz), and Field of Prey (Trevor)

If you want to see them, here are some of the other ornaments I've made in recent years...
Hot Cocoa Mugs 2014
Stamped Washers 2013
Felt Owls 2012

Random Cute Photos

September 24 - JD's reading has really taken off in the past couple months. Here he sat down with Annabeth to read her a book. 

September 28 - Now that she is a little bit older, Annabeth has been going over to play at the neighbor's. Today, I drove over to pick her up and found her riding down the street with her friends in a car. All the girls were dressed as princesses.

October 14 - We have been learning about 10 famous paintings this semester. JD seems to really enjoy it. For each of the paintings I have printed a coloring page. JD wanted his coloring page to look just like the real Persistence of Memory.

October 18 - While Dad was watching football on the big TV, Annabeth and Wesley shared a little small screen time on his Kindle.

A Visit from an Old Friend

After the sound of the familiar clucking alerted me to her presence, I was surprised to open the door  this morning and find Loosey on the back patio. She hasn't done that in ages! She is pretty much the equivalent of a senior citizen so I'm not sure how she managed to jump the fence. We enjoyed her little visit and then I took her back to her home and friends. 

Loosey and her sister "The Red Evil One" (Annabeth calls her that) will be three years old in a few months. They are the only remaining chickens from our first batch of chicks and they have lived through quite a bit in their three years! They welcomed two new batches of chicks into the flock and survived a coyote attack. We hope they'll be healthy and keep laying for another year or two, but I wouldn't be surprised if this is the last patio visit we have.

Mom and Roz Weekend

Last weekend I took my annual trip to go see Roz in Minneapolis. I had a little trouble getting off the ground, engine trouble sent us back to the gate for about an hour. While I was sitting on the plane, Jerry and the kids were having breakfast at Denny's. 

Thankfully, I did get there eventually.

First stop after meeting up with Trevor (and getting a quick tour of his new place) was Giordano's Pizza for dinner. The wait was long, but they let you order your pizza half way through your wait so once you're at your table you don't have to wait all over again for them to cook it. No wonder it takes so long to cook, their Chicago deep dish pizzas are REALLY deep!

I'm not a big drinker, but I did try this beer. It was pretty good!

Roz and I made our usual trip to Junk Bonanza on Saturday. I kept my eye out for chicken items, I especially wanted an egg scale, but didn't have any luck. I only got a few small things. After JB we went out to Culver's for lunch and hit up a favorite thrift store. We hit up the new outlet mall where I splurged and got myself a new purse. Then we ran to JoAnns and Target to buy some crafting supplies before running to Panera for a quick dinner.

Sunday morning we got out the door bright and early to run to the Farmer's Market and meet my cousin Katie for brunch. I bought some fresh cheese curds to bring home to the boys. Yum!

We had brunch at Psycho Suzi's Motor Lounge. Weird name, good food, and AWESOME weather - although I can't give the restaurant credit for that!

After brunch, we ran over to look at the park location for next year's WEDDING OF THE YEAR!

Then we swung by the Happy Gnome (restaurant) for a quick peek at where the reception will be. As you can see, I made a new friend. You can meet him yourself next June if you come to the wedding!

Here is a little sneak peek at our craft project. Roz bought a small, vintage suitcase at Junk Bonanza. We took it home and ripped out the old lining. I re-lined it and Roz made a cute little banner for it. She will put it on a table at the reception for cards. So cute!

Before you know it, Monday morning rolled around and it was time for me to head back home. I'm always depressed for a few days after parting ways with Roz. At least this time I have her and Trevor's upcoming Thanksgiving trip to look forward to!

It was a Circus

Annabeth and I went to a baby shower for a couple of women at our church. The shower had a circus theme. We had a great time and enjoyed spending time with the other women and girls in our church.

There was a little "photo booth" area set up. Everyone took turns. Annabeth thought it was a lot of fun!

 We left the backdrop and props at church so the boys could have a turn on Sunday.

 Then, since it was no longer needed, they let the kids run through it!